This is really important, especially now during the holidays. You owe nothing to nobody if they make you uncomfortable.
UNPOPULAR OPINION by someone who grew up with a cold and impatient mother:
Although I agree with the claim that if your kid is getting bullied at a party, that it’s right to be able to let them leave whenever they want or if someone is having a full blown panic attack somewhere, yeah it’s okay to leave some uncomfortable situations.
But I feel as if this isn’t good practice..I feel like it just teaches the kid that they can leave whatever situation they want just because they’re uncomfortable. People have to go through uncomfortable situations to get stronger as people, not just give them excuses to leave.
Getting through some forms of anxiety includes forcing yourself through these uncomfortable situations, not just giving up and leaving whenever it gets uncomfortable. This isn’t going to help anxiety, it’ll probably just prolong it if a kid grows up believing they can leave whatever uncomfortable situation they please. Kids have to learn how to cope in these uncomfortable situations, unless, like I stated, it’s at a party and the kid is getting bullied or they’re sick or what have you.
Even so, kids have to deal with bullying. Yeah, it isn’t always pretty, I’ve had to go through it myself. But this makes the kid stronger if they face it head on, not just run away from the situation. That just makes you grow up to be soft, man.
HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELVES PEOPLE. YOU ARE YOUR OWN INDIVIDUAL AND FUCK WHOEVER TRIES TO BELITTLE YOU.
Thank you for my short TedTalk
No. I “faced” years of bullying, and let me assure you that it did not fucking make me “stronger” or anything of the sort. If it did that for you, good for you, but not everyone is you. You want to force children through torture just to satisfy some weird idea of “strength through pain”, when actual strength is to know your boundaries and knowing you do NOT have to go through something like that, you do NOT have to let others treat you like that. Listening to your needs and saying “I do not have to subject myself to this,” especially when it’s not an absolutely mandatory thing you’re doing at the moment, is anything but “being soft”.
One thing is “going through oncomfortable situations”, sure, everyone needs to know how to do that. But that is not the same.
Lol I never said I wanted to let a kid be tortured by bullying. I meant more for general situations, like if a kid was nervous about going to a sports practice for seemingly no reason, just anxiety. Then the kid just needs to learn to cope with the anxiety and not to exclude it from their lives because they get anxious about something. I’ve never fully coped from my bullying, and I still don’t have the best confidence from it and I still have to take medication as well, so I know how damaging it can be. I even said in the post that some situations are okay to leave, like if you’re getting bullied at a party. Yeah it’s not cool to let your kid stay there and be forced to take it. It was meant for more general situations that can help a person grow, and not be constantly afraid of the world. Kids have to learn to be strong enough to not let bullying really effect them, but I know it’s very difficult for people, as for myself. Don’t even say I want kids to be tortured from it, I would never want a child, or my own children to be feel like they’re being tortured from bullying. I just meant that kids shouldn’t feel afraid to put themselves out there and go through uncomfortable situations. It just shows them that if they can get though one uncomfortable situation, then they most likely can get through another. I agree that having strength to know how you should be treated it important, so if a kids feels that the best way to deal with bullies is to walk away, then they should do that. That’s a situation where it’s totally acceptable to walk away. I wouldn’t want my kid standing around being bombarded by bullies, I would be proud if they walked away or even confronted them. I just felt that the original Tweet could be taken vaugley and that people would think they can just leave situations whenever they feel like just because it becomes a little uncomfortable.
